Five Signs Your Ex Is A Narcissist

• Published date: 04 June 2020
• Author: Ms Natalie Mathews
• Subject Matter: Family and Matrimonial, Family Law
• Law Firm: Dickinson Wright PLLC

A relationship with a narcissist involves a toxic cycle of emotional abuse and destruction. It is not uncommon for a victim to be entirely unaware of the negative toll a narcissist takes on their mental health and self-esteem until the damage is already done. Below are five signs you may be or were in a dysfunctional relationship with an individual who exhibits the traits of narcissistic personality disorder (NPD):

1. Hypersensitivity to Criticism: While a narcissist is quick to point out flaws in their partner, they are incapable of self-reflection on their own inappropriate behaviors. This characteristic goes beyond an inflated ego; rather, a narcissist won't engage in self-betterment because they truly believe there is nothing they need to change about themselves. Beware of finding yourself trapped in this vicious cycle of blame and deflection. With a narcissist, you will always be the problem.
2. Lack of Empathy: Empathy is the ability to understand and process how others are feeling. Most individuals experience empathy naturally and intuitively. Narcissists, on the other hand generally lack the ability to offer understanding and relate to the emotions of others. This often manifests itself in the likelihood that a narcissist will not feel guilt or show remorse for their own upsetting actions.
3. Manipulation and Charm: Narcissists are experts at doing and saying things for the sole purpose of furthering their own selfish agendas. The onset of a relationship with a narcissist may feel "too good to be true" as the narcissist will display all the qualities of a perfect and attentive mate. Typically, once a narcissist has achieved their goal, they quickly become bored and disinterested in their partner's life. A person with NPD may display personality changes without warning and even go to lengths such as emotional blackmail to pursue their self-serving interests.
4. Inflated Sense of Importance: Narcissists often work under a...